Saturday, 14 January 2012

A little kindness.

"The 90's you didn't need to tell kids not to try this shit at home. They weren't all complete retards back then"

Comedy it’s a very subjective thing. Not objective at all. We all have sensibilities lets face it and we all will feel hurt at one joke and laugh uproariously at one which may hurt another.

But humour and objectivity isn’t what I campaign against, it’s humour which objectifies people that’s what I’m not keen on.

There’s a lot of talk on Twitter and beyond about comedy. As I’ve said before it is a life saver. That can’t be over stated. It can lift your mood and free your mind if used well.

It can tackle and address taboos too, beautifully and in the case of someone like Richard Pryor permanently when it comes to stigmatising attitudes.

But the comedy of cruelty extends beyond personal subjectivity. It’s a simply a call for people not to promote stereotypes by peddling the myth of laughable clichés.

When you use words like "Retard (or retards), or spastic or mong or window licker" as a negative term to mean stupid or foolish you perpetuate the myth of learning disability being less than. Less than human less than dignified less than a person.

Stigmatising attitudes towards disability as a negative permeate the language we speak. This is a historical fact and all I’m asking is for people not to use terminology which replaces the epithet for stupid or foolish or idiotic with one that references disability. As comedian Richard Herring says"if you mean idiot why not just say idiot"

I do politely challenge on twitter when a celebrity with a huge fan base can influence many people. Retard as an abusive term, may not hurt you or anyone you love but the facts are it does hurt many people when used about them or in front of them as a casual link to stupidity. It’s with the hope that once knowing this, once understanding this people will choose not to perpetuate harm. Which for many many disabled people is a reality.

Despite lots of infuriated assertions from champions of free speech and free comedy, I don’t witchhunt. I love to learn, to realise and understand the human condition of the people I share the planet with and if I ever unknowingly say something hurtful I choose to apologise and change.

That’s how you define intention to my mind. Not by what you say but in how you react to criticism of saying it.. That’s where the truth lies. If you turn the tables and take the "How very dare you" route it’s a shame really.

If you become defensive and go on the attack you haven’t really the type of mindset, which is capable of growth through education. If you portray yourself as the victim as white male, wealthy and unencumbered with the worries many disabled people face in our patriarchal society. You look rather foolish.

If you attack polite reasoning with accusations of humorless PC gone mad abuse and block someone who is replying to you by referring to them as a “stupid bastard and a “fucktard” (combination of fucker and retard) then sadly you have nothing on show but your ego.

It’s a subjective thing comedy I agree. But my feelings currently remain that those who have a lot to gain from comedy ie salaries and TV exposure and offers of further work are sometimes the last people who should dream of lecturing the rest of us on what we find hurtful.

Because we know a little more about our own experiences on that subject.

Twitter can at times be great it can at times be not so great. We can all make mistakes and we can all apologise for them. Whether we do or not is of course up to us.

Apologies should be given not taken eh?

But the final word on the whole sad day belongs to the Tweeter Jay Parsons who thinks this type of humour is fine and that the rest of us need to get a sense of humour. He tweeted the above image to one of the lovely fans of a celebrity who felt he should educate me about comedy and my PC nonsense.

Jay Parsons also wrote this, which he's no doubt now deleted to someone who with his brother, had delighted in calling me a "spastic" and other choice "joke" words.
 :  it was a crazy day that got well out of hand... Loads more followers though